Sunday, May 8, 2022

A Mother's Descent A father's Journal 1958

partially gone 


Bad fight 


Slightly Tight


BF


Very T.  


Appeared tight. BF. 


I made supper


Slightly T.  


I make supper


Slightly T.  


sleepy, tongue thick, more tense. no goodnight.  


Coakey bit K.


Called everything but smart. Very T.


  Slightly T.  One spat, short


Slightly T. One spat in bed.


slightly T.  


        She treats kids summarily. Sends to bed early. Falls asleep in chair after supper.


    Discontinued in hopes of improvement


learning to recognize more quickly her condition of inebriation. 


  taken to hiding bottles, usually pints of blend or vodka, in drawers full of clothes, on obscure shelves.  


        J. will tell me when she has been drinking - as if I had to be told!


sloppy, hair messy, poor posture, off balance, weaving, eyes glazed - stupid looking. 


                 Easily offended, quick to temper, lazy, doesn’t care what happens to the kids. 


she falls asleep without making supper,  the task falls to me. 


  This of course exasperates me no end.


  she is extremely short with children, often sending them to bed as much as three hours ahead of schedule.


clouted me across the back of the head -from behind - with a shoe


sloppiness, unsteadiness, sulky, thick tongue, glazed eyes. 


seated in front of LR chair drunkenly playing with children 


                  (she seldom plays with them except when drunk)


I told her she was drunk and should stay home. 


This clinched her decision to go. 


She came up from behind and kicked me sharply, I stood up, saw she had a knife in her hand.


I was a bit afraid she might try to use it


she left home last night at 9:40 pm, to pick up babysitter and got home at 10:10 with no baby sitter


she didn’t get the BMR because she was late and overworked (and hung over?)


      she sounded slightly tight. 


The fifth of whiskey which had been almost half full was gone.


displayed the usual characteristics of drinking: 


    emotional, extremely dramatic in speech and gestures, irresponsible attitude   


I left at 6:40, J. dressing, K. beginning supper. 


did not prepare supper for herself.


   definitely under the influence. 


Hair all awry, eyes red and puffy, generally sloppy. 


    Physical coordination clumsy, tongue thick. 


At 6:30 just feeding the baby. 


No beds made today. 


    Closed bedroom door leaving my bedclothes out implying she wanted me to use den. 


    I will try sleeping in bedroom. 


    No harsh words tonight




© Kerry Bell 2022



 

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